I recently posted on my Instagram how I was having a hard time. For years I’ve been depressed and had some various forms of anxiety. You wouldnt really know it from the things I post, but it’s true. My little corner of the internet is where I can escape from it all and hopefully make the lives of others just a little bit better. Being a stay at home mom, (or mermaid) I find my life is devoted to my three little munchkins. Don’t get my wrong, I wouldnt want it ANY other way. But sometimes I find it hard when so much of my time and energy is put towards serving them and finding ways to take care of myself is kind of on the back burner. On my Instagram post, I shared a few things I do to lift my spirits when the day is getting to be too much to bear. It started to turn into a novel so I thought I’d share five more ideas here as well.
Five Ways To Not be Depressed
Whether it’s a doctor, a friend or family member (or me!) talking about your feelings helps you know you aren’t alone. I also want you to know that there is no shame in needing to be on medication. I think the culture we live in just doesnt talk about it. It’s taboo and a little hush hush. Why is that? The lack of talk makes people think medication is something to be ashamed of. Nothing could be further from the truth. I’ve had three kids and just barely got on zoloft a few months ago and I wish that I would have gotten on sooner. Before I feel like I was always looking at the negative things. (I am usually such a positive person!) I would fly off the handle and yell at my kids for something stupid because I couldnt think through it. But now I feel like I have a better handle on things and can be a little more patient, find a little more joy in the little things and actually be in the moment more often. If taking a little pill helps me be a better mother, you can bet your bottom dollar I’ll keep doing it. (Side note, talk to your doctor to find the best thing for you. I know it can be a process finding the exact dose to work for you, and everyone reacts differently. My goal here is to let you know that it’s NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED OF! You are not alone and you CAN do this. But most of all, that you deserve to be happy and it doesnt matter what it takes to get you there. )
I kinda mentioned this before but serving others lifts my heart tremendously. I love showing love to others and it honestly makes me feel so wonderful in return. The other day we had just gotten pizza and bread sticks for dinner. My oldest was thrilled to have the bread sticks that night but as we were driving home, we saw someone on the side of the road asking for help. We didn’t have much, but we had bread sticks. I pulled over and asked my daughter what I thought we should do. It took some convincing but she reluctantly relented in giving away our beloved bread sticks. I’ll be honest… she was not happy at first. It took a good couple of days for her to be able to feel good about her sacrifice. But she did. And I think she gets it now. Something so little can bless some else’s life and I know for a fact, that serving will bless your own.
Girls Night. (Or date night with a hottie)
I’ve found that when I have something to look forward to, than I can hold onto my sanity just a little bit longer. Whether it’s a girls night out with my best gal pals or a fun date night with my main squeeze or even a family dinner with cousins and grandma and grandpa. Plans give me a deadline or an end in sight where I know my cup will be filled again.
Ok so I’ve noticed that when I’m feeling down it’s because I haven’t felt like I’ve looked my best. Sure, Lularoe leggins and baggy shirts are comfy but maybe not the most flattering. Sometimes I just want to (cue Aretha) “feel like a natural woman.” And honestly, that doesn’t have to break the bank! A few things I’ve done that make me feel better are:
- At home pedicures. Cute toes make me haaaaaappy!
- Wear a new (and bright!) color lipstick. (If you are a neutral color gal, try something different! Just a little something new can be just the mix up you need!)
- Get bangs. It’s a great change and not expensive at all. Just make sure you find someone who knows what they are doing. Haha.
- I like to add a little color into my hair for a change. There’s these cool hairsprays or chalks you can buy that will wash right out but will also make you feel like a magical unicorn. That ALWAYS makes me feel better.
- Go drastic and actually dye or chop your hair. This requires some serious guys, but I’ve totally done it before. Sometimes I’ve regretted it, other times I’ve LOOOOVED it. But either way, it changed it up enough that I was able to play with it and find new ways to enjoy how I looked.
- Go shopping, take a bubble bath, go to that fancy restaurant you’ve wanted to try.
Learn Something New.
A lot of times I feel depressed because I am not flexing my creative muscles. I feel like I’m in the movie Groundhog Day and keep experiencing the same feelings and responsibilities day in and day out. I found that if I take an online class, research something, try something new, I feel like I did back in college. I feel like I am progressing. There’s not much mental stimulation listening to kids fighting or Daniel Tiger on the television. Try writing a story, learning more about your favorite time period or how to do something you’ve always wanted to try. I can’t remember which podcast I heard it on, but one of their sponsors was a site called: The Great Courses Plus. They have thousands of online courses about all kinds of topics. ( I got my eye on the Creative Thinkers Toolkit or the Art of Storytelling courses.) I haven’t paid for any yet, but it seems like such a fun idea.
Obviously these are just a few ways to help you get out of the slums of depression. Being a mom is hard. Being a woman is hard. Being a mermaid is hard. Life is just… hard. But isn’t it nice to know that you aren’t tackling it alone? I, for one, know exactly how it feels to not feel like you’re enough, like you’re not doing enough, that you don’t have enough (time, patience, money, etc.) I want you to know that I am here for you! Drop me a line, send me an email, I am glad to be a support to you.
After all, mermaids are not the most marvelous creatures on the planet.